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| Nov 2007: San Francisco |
Hubs and I celebrated three years of wedded bliss yesterday.
In total, we’ve been together for five years, and I can’t believe how much has
changed and yet how much has stayed the same. From dating to cohabitating, then becoming home
owners, then getting married, then having a baby, now raising a toddler and just getting
older in general … all of that changes a couple.
Especially becoming parents. That has been the biggest event
that has changed us as a couple. And for all you happily married non-parents,
you should know that it’s not a one-time event when the baby is born and POOF!, you go through a huge change overnight
and then it’s done. I mean, there definitely is that big overnight POOF!,
but there are bigger, gradual changes that follow.
Being a parent for the first time brings an enormous amount
of responsibility and, for me and many others, an enormous amount of anxiety. Your
intense love for that baby reduces you down to your most fragile and vulnerable
state. You and your partner are bare before each other like you’ve never been before,
emotionally naked and exposed. Whatever feelings and fears you’ve buried deep rise
to the surface, and you are raw.
In the eighteen months since Quinn was born, Hubs and I saw
things in each other that we had never seen before. We became familiar with the
darkness in both of us. It wasn’t always pleasant, but it was 100% “let-our-walls-down”
honest, and for the first time we saw each other and ourselves for who we truly
are.
And we still love each other. Madly.
For with that darkness comes such beautiful light, a light
you cannot fully appreciate until you’ve witnessed its opposite. When I see
Hubs being the incredible father that he is and the amount of love he has for
our son, my heart swells. When we look at our sleeping baby on the video
monitor and then share a satisfied smile, I feel our connection strengthen.
When the three of us spend time together as a family – whether in the ocean waves or the living room floor – my cup runneth over.
If we didn’t have Quinn, Hubs and I probably wouldn’t argue
as much, or be as stressed out, or feel pulled in so many different directions.
But we also wouldn’t have had the happiest moments in our marriage. We wouldn’t
have this amazing blessing of knowing a love this strong.
They say time flies when you’re having fun. Perhaps that’s
why the last three years have sped by in a blur of activity, laughter and
stolen sleep. But that’s okay. That just means it won’t be long before Hubs and
I are growing old together, and I look forward to all the anniversaries,
memories and changes along the way.
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| Oct. 3, 2009: Half Moon Bay, CA |
Today, I’m re-posting
a video with some of our wedding photos. By request, our photographer took
mostly candid shots, and in doing so, he beautifully captured exactly who we were that day – two people with a deep connection and a fierce love for each
other. Our hopes and dreams and great expectations are written all over faces
as we grasp hands and step into the uknown together.
As the unknown continues to slowly unfold before us every
day, we still cling to each other, still full of hope and love.
Anniversary
The Rules
Our Engagement Story
Our Wedding Story
The First Day of My Life
My Wedding Dress Catastrophe
Note: If you blow the
video up to full screen, it will be super grainy because Blogger compresses it.
Bummer. Also, if you're viewing this post in your email, the video won't show
up at all because Feedburner is weird like that. Double bummer. Please click on
the title of the post to view it in your browser.
Note #2: If you’re a
bride-to-be looking for a photographer (or a wedding photographer looking for a
wedding), check out Wedding Photo USA. I met the guy who owns this business on
my flight to Boston a few weeks ago, and he’s really cool. I recommended the
website to my wedding photographer, so if you like my photos, hopefully you’ll
find him on there! Wedding Photo USA is not compensating me in any way for this
post. I just wanted to give the website a shout-out because I liked it so much,
and I like to pass on awesome stuff to all you awesome people.
